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In our lives, how do we deal with someone who is looking at the exact same situation but seeing something absolutely different than we do... who would be right then?
What if no one was wrong! In that case, how would we manage and resolve a conflict if both parties were right? Isn't it what's creating a lot of the conflicts all around the world? "My perspective is right, yours is wrong!"
1- First of all, we need to be willing to let go of our desire to be right. It come a time when we have a choice to make: Being right or being happy... not as easy and obvious as it may seem.
2- When we release the need to be right, the next step is to acknowledge that our perspective is influenced by our perception. We look at events and people through filters created by our family, friends, religion, culture, media and life experiences.
3- Then, question these perspectives. Do you need to keep them or could you look at the events and people from a different angle? What possibilities would open up if you changed your perspective? Question, question, question, and challenge everything you know and believe.
4- Next, engage with people that you are in conflict with. Do not bring your righteous indignation and desire to change them or convince them that you are right but wonder about the life experiences that led them to their perspective.
Growing up catholic, I heard that Jesus was our savior, the Way,
and the Truth and that was it.
As a child and teenager, I used to ask: "Who says that this is the truth and
the only truth? How come so many people would be wrong?
How come they don't even feel wrong? What if they were right?
What if we were all wrong?"
The answers I would get were not to my satisfaction and
more often than not I was simply shushed for not knowing what I was
talking about and for doubting the Truth. How dared I?
5- Then listen, listen, listen. Keep being curious about other people's mindset. Listen without agenda, without forcing an outcome.
6- We need to be ok with not knowing how to resolve the conflict at this point in time and still trust that it's possible to find a way. Practice being patient and open.
"We cannot solve our problems with the same
thinking we used when we created them." - Albert Einstein
In my next blog, I will share some tools that will :
- Allow us to access new ways of thinking so we are inspired new ideas and insights to resolve a conflict.
- Help you stay grounded, centered and connected to love.
Stay tuned! By the way, thanks for being here!!!
One of the gifts of Intentional Creativity® is to bring mindfulness and curiosity about what we experience in front of our canvas or paper into our lives. Inquiry without forcing an answer is a big part of this method. The goals are to practice becoming more comfortable with the mystery of not knowing and to stay open to answers we didn't know. The processes used serve to unlock the inner wisdom and access the collective consciousness.
I was recently playing with shapes, drips, and colors on my canvas. When I turned the canvas upside down what were originally feathers became trees. Of course, it led me to think about perspective and how it influences our lives and it made me question the perspectives I hold dear in many areas of my life.
So, looking at the picture above, what are those shapes? Feathers, or trees, or ...? Well they are both and more! Maybe you would see feathers upside down and upside up or trees upside down and upside up. Maybe you would see something else completely different. What's the right perspective? Is there a wrong one? Can we live in harmony in a world where all the perspectives are allowed?
I invite you to take some time this week to inquire and journal about your own perspectives on life, people, the world and the universe. Next week, I will reflect on how to deal with conflicts created by two people looking at the exact same situation but seeing absolutely two different things. How would you deal with this?
If you would like to shift some of your perspective, watch these free videos.
Have you been hearing the call?
Have you been feeling exhausted, out of place, or like something is missing?
Have you been pulled to do something completely wild and out of the box?
If you answer yes to any of these questions, you might be at the dawn of a new journey in your life: Reinventing yourself!
Let's be honest, the journey of reinvention is tumultuous, filled with fears, doubts, worries AND also, a new sense of vitality, exaltation, love for life, joy, and purpose!
Reinventing yourself requires you to let go of old ways of being, thinking, acting and become present, aware, and a conscious creator of your life.
It also offers you many opportunities to practice faith, trust, self-love, acceptance, and forgiveness.
The good news is that you are not the only one walking this path. And even if you haven't found your tribe of life reinventors, life shakers yet, know that you are never in this alone!!!
You are always guided, inspired, and deeply loved.
Now whether you are feeling it or not is another story!
Take a moment right now, to close your eyes and feel the energy around you and in you. Feel the love of the Divine that created everything permeate your whole being. Consciously breathe in this love and feel it going deep into your heart,
into every cell of your body, into your energy field and rippling out in the world.
As you breathe out, let go of the fear, doubts and worry.
They are telling a story about you, the world and the Divine that is
not necessarily the truth.
I would like to leave you with this inquiry to be with. Do not try to answer with your rational mind. Release the judgment. For the purpose of this exercise, imagine that there is nothing wrong with any of the answers. They just are what they are. I invite you to just be with the question for a while and open your mind to new revelations, a new perspective, and new thoughts.
What is preventing you to step into your calling, your vision?
And then keep wondering: What else?
"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." - Rumi
Inspired by these wise words, I created a journey to reveal and release these barriers in order to access my heart and allow a constant flow of love, joy, and wealth.
I painted two ladies, this is the first one: Authentic Heart. Here is her message to me and you:
"The barriers within prevent you to be you. Yes, they are protections against the outside world but they also stop the flow out of your love, of your gifts and of the most free expression of YOU.
The barriers are also filters that taint everything that occurs with fears, expectations, disappointments, and by feelings of inadequacy and not enoughness.
Nothing, no one, is left unscathed by these barriers and the one who pays the higher price if YOU! You don't allow love, wealth, and joy, in or out at its full potential.
Forgive yourself, forgive others, forgive the Universe, forgive God. (Evelyne here: Ho'oponopono is my most favorite method to forgive - google it, there is a ton of information on the web about this powerful method to attain peace).
Don't worry, boundaries are not barriers. Boundaries are an expression of the flow of your love for yourself, your space and others.
It's not enough to say the words. Feel the truth of the words:
- You are worthy of love, wealth, and pleasure.
- You deserve abundance simply because you are breathing.
Imagine the barriers dissolving. Imagine love coming through. Imagine blessings getting into your heart finally having access to it!
Once the barriers are gone, when there is not more filter, what's left?
Give yourself permission to go through a period of trial and error from your new Authentic Heart. It might feel awkward at first but keep being courageous, discover YOU and stay connected to your Authentic Heart!"
I am looking forward to experience life as Authentic Heart!
Here I share a powerful and easy way to elevate your vibration - Future Visioning.
If you want to receive a guided future visioning, fill up the form below the video.
A short video where I share a simple and effective way to deal with your inner critic.
Hope you enjoy and try it out. Let me know how it works for you.
"Dance, play, laugh, express yourself freely!
Stop thinking, open your heart, let the beautiful
wisdom of the flowers guide you.
Follow their example. They are so generous!
They show their beauty openly,
they offer their vibrant colors authentically.
They take their time to grow, be flamboyant, and die until the next season.
Listen to them, can you hear them singing?
Taking care of the flowers is also taking care of yourself.
Learn their name and listen, they are telling you secrets only they know.
Come with me!
Dance, laugh, play, sing, and offer your gifts generously like the flowers do." - La fée des fleurs (Flowers' Fairy) September 2016
What wisdom from the flowers are you taking away today?
I would love to guide you through an Intentional Creativity® journey that gives you access to your own wisdom and creative genius? Email me to know more and set up a free consultation firstname.lastname@example.org
" I could almost hear creativity talking to me while I spun off into fear and doubt. Stay with me, it would say. Come back to me. Trust me."
- Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic
What inner voice do you focus on the most? The Inner Critic's or Creativity's?
The Inner Critic keeps reminding you of your shortcomings, your "failures", the reasons why you don't deserve what you desire or that tries to convince you that your dreams are too big.
Creativity encourages you, reminds you of your gifts, talents, passions, and purpose.
Which one do you want to focus on today? I invite you to intentionally redirect your focus by talking to Creativity (out loud or not) and asking her/him/it questions like:
- Is that the truth about me and about what's possible?
- What would you like me to create in this moment?
- How can I take care of myself today?
- What would you like me to wear?
- What music would you like me to dance to?
Enjoy building this new relationship!
Are you aware of the box you live in? You know the box you created a long time ago to protect yourself?
The box is the paradigm you live in, it is how you see and experience life, it has limits.
A box can be comforting and give a sense of security so it's not bad in itself, until it prevents you to be free and be yourself. Even when you get out of one box, it's to step into an other one... a bigger one, with more space to move, and more things to see and explore. The challenge is not to live in a box but to realize when it has became too small and to know when to jump out of it.
What does yours look like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like?
If you could name your box, what would it be?
- "Be Nice or else..."?
- "This is all I can amount to"?
- "This is the way it's always been"?
- "Don't talk too much"?
- "Don't make too much wave"?
- "Don't be so emotional"?
- "Not this way, that way"?
Is it time for you to step out?
"Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules,
making mistakes, and having fun!" - Mary Lou Cook
Let's make it our intention to do one thing from this list today! Remember, creativity is not just about making art, far from it. Creativity is the umbrella under which art resides as well as looking at our thoughts and beliefs with different perspectives, questioning what society is feeding us (literally and figuratively), raising empowered children, finding solutions to our problems, and so much more.
How do you choose to be creative today? Oh, and don't forget to have fun!
I am an intuitive artist, Intentional Creativity ® Coach, Color of Woman Teacher, certified law of attraction coach, wife, mom and so much more! I love all things spiritual. I believe that the questions are much more valuable than the answers and it's why I live in a constant inquiry. Welcome in my world. Get a cup of coffee and spend some time dreaming with me.