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In our lives, how do we deal with someone who is looking at the exact same situation but seeing something absolutely different than we do... who would be right then?
What if no one was wrong! In that case, how would we manage and resolve a conflict if both parties were right? Isn't it what's creating a lot of the conflicts all around the world? "My perspective is right, yours is wrong!"
1- First of all, we need to be willing to let go of our desire to be right. It come a time when we have a choice to make: Being right or being happy... not as easy and obvious as it may seem.
2- When we release the need to be right, the next step is to acknowledge that our perspective is influenced by our perception. We look at events and people through filters created by our family, friends, religion, culture, media and life experiences.
3- Then, question these perspectives. Do you need to keep them or could you look at the events and people from a different angle? What possibilities would open up if you changed your perspective? Question, question, question, and challenge everything you know and believe.
4- Next, engage with people that you are in conflict with. Do not bring your righteous indignation and desire to change them or convince them that you are right but wonder about the life experiences that led them to their perspective.
Growing up catholic, I heard that Jesus was our savior, the Way,
and the Truth and that was it.
As a child and teenager, I used to ask: "Who says that this is the truth and
the only truth? How come so many people would be wrong?
How come they don't even feel wrong? What if they were right?
What if we were all wrong?"
The answers I would get were not to my satisfaction and
more often than not I was simply shushed for not knowing what I was
talking about and for doubting the Truth. How dared I?
5- Then listen, listen, listen. Keep being curious about other people's mindset. Listen without agenda, without forcing an outcome.
6- We need to be ok with not knowing how to resolve the conflict at this point in time and still trust that it's possible to find a way. Practice being patient and open.
"We cannot solve our problems with the same
thinking we used when we created them." - Albert Einstein
In my next blog, I will share some tools that will :
- Allow us to access new ways of thinking so we are inspired new ideas and insights to resolve a conflict.
- Help you stay grounded, centered and connected to love.
Stay tuned! By the way, thanks for being here!!!
One of the gifts of Intentional Creativity® is to bring mindfulness and curiosity about what we experience in front of our canvas or paper into our lives. Inquiry without forcing an answer is a big part of this method. The goals are to practice becoming more comfortable with the mystery of not knowing and to stay open to answers we didn't know. The processes used serve to unlock the inner wisdom and access the collective consciousness.
I was recently playing with shapes, drips, and colors on my canvas. When I turned the canvas upside down what were originally feathers became trees. Of course, it led me to think about perspective and how it influences our lives and it made me question the perspectives I hold dear in many areas of my life.
So, looking at the picture above, what are those shapes? Feathers, or trees, or ...? Well they are both and more! Maybe you would see feathers upside down and upside up or trees upside down and upside up. Maybe you would see something else completely different. What's the right perspective? Is there a wrong one? Can we live in harmony in a world where all the perspectives are allowed?
I invite you to take some time this week to inquire and journal about your own perspectives on life, people, the world and the universe. Next week, I will reflect on how to deal with conflicts created by two people looking at the exact same situation but seeing absolutely two different things. How would you deal with this?
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I am an intuitive artist, Intentional Creativity ® Coach, Color of Woman Teacher, certified law of attraction coach, wife, mom and so much more! I love all things spiritual. I believe that the questions are much more valuable than the answers and it's why I live in a constant inquiry. Welcome in my world. Get a cup of coffee and spend some time dreaming with me.